WTF Forty

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I appear to be in that awkward stage of life where I need both acne AND wrinkle creams.

The question is, aside from who’s idea is this: should I apply them one at a time (and which one for mornings and which one for nights) or use both at the same time? Anyone have an answer?

I’m 37 years and 4 months old. I should not still be dealing with acne or periods. I’m pretty much done with them both at this point.  Yes, yes, I know….if we want to try for a 3rd child, I’ll have to continue to deal with periods until either I get pregnant or it become obvious it ain’t happenin’.

Therefore, the real question remains: wtf forty?!?

Yesterday

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Yesterday…yesterday was one for the books. 

Backstory 1: I’ve been going to the chiropractor 3x a week for the last 5 weeks. It all started with a crick in my neck that was so bad I couldn’t turn my head and could barely pick Cora up. 

Backstory 2: Christopher left yesterday morning to head back to North Dakota for work. I try not to let him see how hard it is to watch him leave. How crushing the loneliness is when he first leaves. I know it’s so hard for him to leave us and be away from us for so long, I don’t want to make it any harder on him. And so I try to hide it from him. 

 So, I’m at the chiropractor and I can’t stop crying. Usually, I cry for a minute at work and move on. But there I was at the chiropractor. Crying. The sweet ladies in the chiropractors office were…well, being so sweet to me. Handing me tissues, hugging me, sympathizing with me. 

Christopher met me after my appointment to tell me bye and I headed to work. I clocked in at 9:18….and by 9:28 was clicking back out. 

The day care called. Cora had tripped and bitten her lip when she landed. So I went to check her out, to make sure she didn’t need stitches or a visit to the doctor. She didn’t, she is ok. Her lip is swollen and there’s a scrape and a bruise on the inside of her bottom lip…but she’s fine. 

I was not, however. And, of course, since I wasn’t, she had a meltdown when I had to leave to go back to work. 

Thankfully, her teacher prayed over me before I left and the rest of the day went smoothly. 

I’m still buried in work at my office though. But that’s another story. 

Let’s Talk….Car Seats

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First and foremost, I AM NOT AN EXPERT. I am just a mom who did some online research and thought it would be helpful to put it all together. And give a real, not perfect in any way, working a full time job and have a 9 month old and 14 year old mother’s view. Please keep in mind that what I’m blogging are things I’ve learned and what works for my family. Also, keep in mind my research was done online and what that means.

Secondly, CONSULT YOUR pediatrician. They are most familiar with you and your baby. They went to school for many, many years to answer questions like this and to advise parents like you. If you trust your pediatrician to care for your child’s health, then you trust their judgment on this issue (the only exception, possibly, being car seat safety). {{I say this because I’ve read that a lot of doctors don’t advocate extended rear facing (extended rear facing is rear facing beyond the recommended 2 years). I have not discussed this with my pediatrician, so I have no first hand knowledge of this fact. I have also read on the Facebook group Car Seats for the Littles that police officers and flight attendents have been unsupportive of extended rear facing. Again, I have no first hand knowledge of this, just what I’ve read of others experiences.}}

While it’s not true that all car seats are created equal, it IS true that all car seats must pass the same exact safety tests and standards. Any extra safety features a car seat has are just that…extra. A $400 car seat is not any safer than a $40, but it seems to me that the more you spend the higher the height limits for that seat (most seats will be outgrown by height before weight)…in my opinion, unless you have a 90th percentile baby, you can get by with buying a cheaper seat.

The very best car seat for your child is the one that:

A) Fits your car correctly (read your car manual!) Some places, like Babies “R” Us will let you take a seat out to your car to try out,

B) Is correctly installed in your car (read your car and the car seat manuals), and

C) Is correct for the orientation (forward facing  – or rear facing) and size (height and weight) for your child. Oh, and

D) Fits your budget! Don’t break your budget for a car seat.

There is no one size fits all for car seats. Some seats are better for tall thin kids and some are more suited to shorter chunkier kids (no judgment for having a chunky baby…I love me some baby chub!). In my opinion, your main goal in choosing a car seat is one that will rear face your baby love for as long as possible….as close to age 4 as you can get. Take a minute and read this and this. When you’re done, read this.  Yes, for real….I’ll wait here.

OK, now that we know that rear facing is THE safest (5 times safer for a 12-23 month old) orientation in a moving vehicle, without exception. But until they make cars that you can drive while rear facing; we, as adults, will have to take our chances forward facing. That’s no reason, however, to take any chances with our children’s lives.

Most states are ‘proper use’ states, meaning the law is to use the car seat the way the manufacturer says (read your car seat manual! and check your state laws). Also, this means that if you forward face your child in a car seat that your child hasn’t outgrown rear facing, you’re breaking the law.

So…how to pick the best car seat for you? Here is a great place to start nd then check out their recommended car seats. This is how I chose our car seat, the Chicco Nextfit (pronounced Key-co) which I got on sale (what what) at target.com. They go over Infant Seats, Convertible Seats, Forward Facing Only Seats and Boosters – High Back and Backless. They go over Features, Drawbacks and their Comments on each seat. They don’t list every single seat you could possible buy, but they do list the major players in the car seat world. I found it to be a VERY helpful resource; in fact the most helpful resource.

Another place you should check out is Car Seats for the Littles. Join the group. In my opinion, some of the techs and commenters are a little harsh, but their goal is car seat education and I get behind that 150%. If you can look past the harshness and can see the valuable educational information, this is a great resource for not only choosing a car seat but for correctly using that car seat. I mean, who knew that Rear facing straps should come out of the car seat AT or BELOW baby’s shoulders…or that Forward facing straps should come out of the car seat AT or ABOVE the shoulders.  Or that you could use a tongue depressor to determine where the straps are at in relations to your littles shoulders.

One last note on car seats, the best way to get a correct install is to read both your car manual and the car seat manual. However, either or both of these may be confusing and/or you may want a professional second opinion. Yes, there are professionals. They’re called CPST (Child Passenger Safety Technicians) and they are trained to properly install car seats. You can sometimes find one at a fire or police station, but don’t count on it. My advice is read your manuals, then read them again and give it a try by yourself. If you still have questions, see if you can find a local CPST. If you can’t find one locally, Car Seats for the Littles will help you if you post pictures of your install and of your squishy buckled in.

No, I didn’t tell what car seat you should get. And I won’t…that’s a decision that you (and your partner) have to make based on A, B, C and D above.

If you’re interested in a review of my Chicco Nextfit, stay tuned. And check out the video on installing the Nextfit using LATCH (scroll down to Installing Using LATCH). *LATCH stands for Lower Anchors and Tethers for CHildren.

**All opinions are my own. I’m not paid in any way for anything I say here. Any mistakes, misspellings, misrepresented or misremembered facts are entirely my own. **

Let’s Talk……….Solid Foods

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First and foremost, I AM NOT AN EXPERT. I am just a mom who did some online research and thought it would be helpful to put it all together. And give a real, not perfect in any way, working a full time job and have a 9 month old and 14 year old mother’s view. Please keep in mind that what I’m blogging are things I’ve learned and what works for my family. Also, keep in mind my research was done online and what that means.

Secondly, CONSULT YOUR pediatrician. They are most familiar with you and your baby. They went to school for many, many years to answer questions like this and to advise parents like you. If you trust your pediatrician to care for your child’s health, then you trust their judgment on this issue (the only exception, possibly, being car seat safety). 

So…solid foods. Most (including my own pediatrician) advise introducing rice cereal at 4 month and from there introducing a new food every 3 days.

I have read more than once about waiting until your baby is 6 months old before introducing solid foods of any kind. There’s some scientific reason for this, which I’ve read about…but cannot remember all the details. It has a lot to do with their digestive systems being immature until 6 months. I, however, took my pediatrician’s advice and started rice cereal at 4 months. At Thanksgiving, I learned that my step sister had waited until 6 months to introduce solid foods to her son and my first thought was ‘Wow…maybe I should have waited another couple of months’ and started doubting myself. But then I saw how hard it was for them to get him to accept food from a spoon, and my girl was eating like a champ, I decided that, for me, getting her used to solid foods starting at 4 months was the right choice.

I had read several times, online, that rice cereal offers no nutritional value and shouldn’t be offered at all. So I asked my pediatrician and his answer was (and I’m paraphrasing) that because rice cereal offers nothing, and is rarely an allergen, it is the perfect first food. For me, that makes perfect sense and that’s what I did. Turns out my girl didn’t like the bland rice cereal…but that’s ok with me. We moved on and tried one new 1st Foods about every 3 days. I tried to be consistent, but I’m not perfect. She ate everything like a champ so we moved onto 2nd Foods.

While she tried everything I gave her, she rarely ate a whole jar. Instead of wasting baby food, I made my own cheater version of homemade baby food. I went to the store and took notes on what mixtures the jarred foods came in, then bought the individual jars. Example: For beef and mixed veggies, I bought a jar of beef and a jar of mixed veggies and made my own baby food, sort of. I mixed the flavors, put them in ice cube trays and froze them. Once frozen, I put them into quart sized freezer bags, properly labeled, of course. Then the night before, I would get out what I wanted her to eat the next day (usually 4 cubes, 2 of an ‘entrée’ and 2 of a dessert/fruit) and put it in the fridge to defrost. Turned out to be the perfect amount for my girl until she was ready to self feed.

OK, this is really long and I have just one more point I want to touch on. Baby Led Weaning. I’d seen this brought up in groups on Facebook and had no idea what it was. About couple of months or so ago, I was looking for  recipes for homemade (truly homemade, not my cheater version) baby food and baby led weaning was mentioned…so I clicked on the link to see what all the fuss is about. There’s a book  or two you can read if you’d like (I didn’t) but the basic idea is that when you start your baby on solid foods, you skip the traditional baby food and give them tiny bite sized (but still big enough to pick up) pieces of ‘real’ food. ‘Real’ food is adult food, of course. This made sense to me because what do babies do when they get something in their hand? They put it in their mouth. The baby led weaning ‘movement’ seems to be  based on that idea…and that feeding your baby anything (physically feeding them with a spoon) leads to overeating which leads to obesity later in life. What you do is give them tiny bite sized pieces of several different foods (all foods you’ve introduced one at a time with 3 days in between each new food, of course) and let them feed themselves whatever and however much they chose. It’s virtually impossible for a baby to overfeed themselves. They’ll stop eating when they’re done.

This made so much sense to me. So I scrapped the homemade baby food idea, gave the day care a heads up on our new feeding practice and started giving my girl ‘real’ food. As I told the day care, I am less concerned with how much she eats as I am with the fact that she feeds herself. I don’t care if she takes 2 bites and throws the rest on the floor as long as she is feeding herself. In the interest of full disclosure, I did try this a few months before and she constantly choked herself. I think I tried it too young. She’s done great this time and hasn’t choked once with me.

Long story short, a combination of the different solid food feeding methods worked best for us and should we have another baby, I’ll do it this way again.

**All opinions are my own. I’m not paid in any way for anything I say here. Any mistakes, misspellings, misrepresented and/or misremembered facts are entirely my own. **

Friday Fill In

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Fill in the blanks………….
 
Today I feel      a little tired, but overall good.  Wishing it was possible for me to be at home with my sick baby.    
 
Today I hope to       make the day go by quickly.    
 
Today I am afraid of      nothing (worth being afraid of).      
 
Today I want to      not have such a hard time breathing when I’m sitting down. After two days of mostly standing so I can breath, I kinda want a break.      
 
Today I absolutely WILL      check my mail. It hasn’t been checked all week, I’m sure it’s bursting at the seams with bills.     
 
Today I don’t want to      be at work…it’s so pretty out, I’d like to be home with Cora.      
 
To my 0 current readers, your turn!!

A Year Ago

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This day a year ago, we found out our lives were forever changed.
We chose to take a road less traveled (who waits 13 years between children?!)…and it was bumpier than we expected (typing that I realize we should have known…the road less traveled will ALWAYS be bumpier, it’s less traveled!).
A year later, there’s a little girl asleep in the other room who is a miracle (my 2nd) and I’m beyond thankful. (Insert mushy cliche here…they’re all applicable!)

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Cora’s Three Month Update

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Cora - 3 months

Cora – 3 months

What Cora is Wearing:

  • Size 3 months baby clothes.
  • Size 2 diapers.
  • No shoes.

What Cora is Eating:

  • Formula, Enfamil Newborn

What Cora is Saying:

  • No, she doesn’t talk yet. But she is vocal. She cries and coos and makes these ‘mmm’ noises when she’s getting tired.

What Cora Likes These Days:

  • Taking a bath and splashing water everywhere with her feet.
  • Being rocked to sleep.
  • Having her head covered while she’s falling asleep.
  • Silly talk. And songs. And Patty Cake.

What Cora Doesn’t Like These Days:

  • Tummy time, although she’s starting to roll over so tummy time should start being fun.
  • Having to wait for a bottle.
  • Having her face wiped off.

What Cora is Doing:

  • The usual baby stuff: eating, sleeping, dirtying diapers.
  • Cora eats about 6oz every 3-4 hours. She is usually an excellent eater.
  • She sleeps from about 9pm until about 7am, if I don’t wake her. During the week, I wake her at 6 to get dressed and eat before leaving the house. If I wait any longer to wake her, we run late.
  • Cora is holding her head up very well and, now that she’s rolling over, is on the verge of sitting.

What We Are Working On:

  • The usual baby stuff: eating, sleeping, dirtying diapers.
  • Rolling over. Next step, crawling!
  • Getting a solid bedtime routine locked down. Mostly my fault for not sticking to one thing, but I want to stick to the one routine that works best for everyone.